People are so stupid. Black Friday is a great example of how stupid people really are. You hear the most ridiculous stories about people camping out, pushing and shoving, bringing their kids out in the middle of the night and for what? 20% off a TV that they don't really need? Why? Why, do people feel that they should camp out for days in front of a store to get $50 off a camera? Not only are they not working on those days but they are also neglecting the people they are buying the gifts for in the first place. Is it worth missing Thanksgiving with your family to camp in front of a store? You can sit in your nice cozy house in your pajamas and get the same deals online or maybe at the stores the weeks before Thanksgiving or after Christmas. Oh that's right, that would require some preplanning and we all know that Americans don't know how to do that.
I'm not saying I don't like a good deal. I am all about that. I'm just saying that time with family is worth more than any gift. Think of all the people who have to cut their Thanksgiving day short because they have to be at work at midnight. My brother works retail and they require all employees to work Black Friday. He lives too far away to drive to my parents house so he doesn't get to spend Thanksgiving with his family.
To all those shopping at 2AM Friday morning fun standing in lines in the cold next to all the other mothers who also didn't get enough sleep. You never hear about single people or guys doing something so silly. Look at the lady on the Target commercials, she is a middle aged weird mom. No wonder people get divorced I wouldn't want to be married to a hardcore Black Friday shopper either.
That is all.
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
Friday, October 28, 2011
childbirth 101
Newsflash!
If you get pregnant you are going to have to get that baby out one way or another. I am so sick of people telling their birthing stories. In fact I detest it so much that I refuse to visit most baby or pregnancy websites in hopes to avoid the same old same old about how their child was brought into the world.
I find it very interesting that those who focus so much on the birth of their child didn't spend as much time thinking about the last nine months of carrying that child. Yup, still saw them drinking their morning coffee or that diet soda. Still saw them gorging themselves on sugar and sweets because that is what they "craved" at the moment. Wouldn't you think 9 months of growing your baby inside you would be so much more important than the last day when your baby is trying to come out. That is something I did right. I ate a very well balanced diet the majority of my pregnancy. I think I had 3 cans of soda the whole time I was pregnant, which, honestly, wasn't that big of a deal for me because I don't really drink soda.
I am not impressed by women who have home births. If they want to do that then it is totally fine with me. I would never do it because if something were to go wrong I want to make sure that I did everything I possibly could to make sure my baby is ok. Being a hospital is the best way to ensure the safety of my child.
I am impressed by women who breast feed. It sucks, it's hard. Everything you do revolves around when the next feeding is or when you have to pump next to keep yourself out of the pain of being too full. Those mothers who make it longer than 6 months I admire you.
Looking back I was the selfish mother who was so sick of pumping/nursing that I decided to quit at 5 months. I could have gone longer but i was feeling smothered by the demand of having to drag a pump to work with me. I felt like a milk cow. At the time I just thought I made it until she was on cereal and I did ok. But looking back I realize I was extremely selfish about it. The very best thing you can do for your baby is to breast feed. No immunizations, no formulas, no natural child birth, nothing is as good for your child as breast milk.
Bottom line is that we have a high survival rate for births because once your baby is being born. You are monitored (be it by doctor or midwife) so that your baby has the best chance to be born alive and well. Who cares if it's natural or epidural? Who cares if it's vaginal or c-section? We all just want a healthy baby. That should be the most important thing for all of us.
If you get pregnant you are going to have to get that baby out one way or another. I am so sick of people telling their birthing stories. In fact I detest it so much that I refuse to visit most baby or pregnancy websites in hopes to avoid the same old same old about how their child was brought into the world.
I find it very interesting that those who focus so much on the birth of their child didn't spend as much time thinking about the last nine months of carrying that child. Yup, still saw them drinking their morning coffee or that diet soda. Still saw them gorging themselves on sugar and sweets because that is what they "craved" at the moment. Wouldn't you think 9 months of growing your baby inside you would be so much more important than the last day when your baby is trying to come out. That is something I did right. I ate a very well balanced diet the majority of my pregnancy. I think I had 3 cans of soda the whole time I was pregnant, which, honestly, wasn't that big of a deal for me because I don't really drink soda.
I am not impressed by women who have home births. If they want to do that then it is totally fine with me. I would never do it because if something were to go wrong I want to make sure that I did everything I possibly could to make sure my baby is ok. Being a hospital is the best way to ensure the safety of my child.
I am impressed by women who breast feed. It sucks, it's hard. Everything you do revolves around when the next feeding is or when you have to pump next to keep yourself out of the pain of being too full. Those mothers who make it longer than 6 months I admire you.
Looking back I was the selfish mother who was so sick of pumping/nursing that I decided to quit at 5 months. I could have gone longer but i was feeling smothered by the demand of having to drag a pump to work with me. I felt like a milk cow. At the time I just thought I made it until she was on cereal and I did ok. But looking back I realize I was extremely selfish about it. The very best thing you can do for your baby is to breast feed. No immunizations, no formulas, no natural child birth, nothing is as good for your child as breast milk.
Bottom line is that we have a high survival rate for births because once your baby is being born. You are monitored (be it by doctor or midwife) so that your baby has the best chance to be born alive and well. Who cares if it's natural or epidural? Who cares if it's vaginal or c-section? We all just want a healthy baby. That should be the most important thing for all of us.
Thursday, October 27, 2011
Deployments make me lustful
Today I spent my work day finding pictures of my top 12 hot guys for the hot guy calendar that I am going to make for 2012. It was extremely important that I chose carefully because I have to look at these guys for a whole month each for 8-9 hours a day while I’m at work. I must admit I am a little overwhelmed at the hotness of Johnny Depp. I don’t think he can take a bad picture. Leonardo DiCaprio is amazing as well and by far they are my favorites. Otherwise these aren’t any order except the very last one.
Johnny Depp
Leonardo DiCaprio
Christian Bale
Ashton Kutcher
Alexander Skarsgard
Young Harrison Ford
Brad Pitt – usually I only like him in Legends of the Fall with long hair and no facial hair but this picture was just too good not to post.
jake gyllenhaal – I tried to find one with his shirt off but they weren’t any good ones, which sucks because it’s the main reason he made it on the list.
Jim Caviezel
Phil Anselmo!!!!!! Ok he is probably my #3
When I make the calendar I’m only going to use the picture on the left.
Colin Firth and Alec Baldwin – I am calling December Jingle Balls because it is going to be the older guys that I like which are Colin Firth and Alec Baldwin. Old balls.
Still me
I don't understand why people, women especially, want to use the excuse that having a baby changes everything. That statement just isn't true. Sure, it changes your sleep habits, drinking habits, and party habits but bottom line is that I am still the same person I was before my daughter was born. I still hang out with friends, throw parties or BBQ's, I still travel, I still read, nothing is so dramatically different that I would use the statement that it "changes everything". I just had to alter things a bit.
Okay, I will agree that I am even more interested in politics than I was before. I am even more adamant about government staying out of my life. It infuriates me to hear that some school (that I pay taxes for) thinks that my child needs to be taught every single detail about sex. I'm pretty sure the basic where babies come from talk would be plenty. It's factual, unbias and a basic fundamental of human anatomy. Please leave the rest to me. You see unlike many other parents I plan on actually parenting my children. So back off!
For me having children or not having children was a win/win. If I didn't have kids there would be nothing to hold me back from do the Halloween pub crawl downtown on Friday night. My disposable income would be more so I could enjoy taking off for the weekend to visit old friends. I could get on the back of the motorcycle and my husband and I could take a ride around the lake in the evening or go to a biker rally.
Having a child is wonderful too. I want to show her everything so I find myself planning more outings, be it to the zoo, pumpkin patch, or state fair. I actually get out and travel more. It's something I truly love and I want to share my love of travel with her. In her almost 14 months she has been to Oklahoma, Kansas, Nebraska, South Dakota, North Dakota, Missouri, Iowa, Illinois, Indiana, California, Manitoba, Ontario and had a layover in Colorado. By next month she will have also gone to Italy, with layovers in Germany, Washington DC and Chicago. This is how I like it. We are always doing something. She is always learning and I am able to still spend good quality time with her and get out and live also.
I do love that I get to watch someone experience life for the first time.
Seeing Christmas lights in the park.
Back to my point. I feel sorry for those women who have lost their identity in this thing called motherhood. I guess as people get older they just lose themselves along the way. No wonder the divorce rate is high. I know plenty of people who get married and try to become what the other person wants them to be rather than who they really are. It's as if they morph into one person and change so much that neither one recognizes the other. It's worse for mothers. I know SO many women who are so into mommy mode that they forget how to be a wife, a lover, a friend, their whole life is consumed by that child or children.
So how can one avoid the slow demise of Mommy Mode? Here are my suggestions.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that parenting isn't that hard. It seems to be the most natural thing in the world. I'm sure I will regret these words when she turns 13 but as for now I expect meltdowns, I expect sickness and injuries. It's just the way it is. I'm going to keep doing what I am doing. I'm going to expose her to as much as happiness and positive experiences as I possibly can and I'm going to do it while still living my life as well.
Okay, I will agree that I am even more interested in politics than I was before. I am even more adamant about government staying out of my life. It infuriates me to hear that some school (that I pay taxes for) thinks that my child needs to be taught every single detail about sex. I'm pretty sure the basic where babies come from talk would be plenty. It's factual, unbias and a basic fundamental of human anatomy. Please leave the rest to me. You see unlike many other parents I plan on actually parenting my children. So back off!
For me having children or not having children was a win/win. If I didn't have kids there would be nothing to hold me back from do the Halloween pub crawl downtown on Friday night. My disposable income would be more so I could enjoy taking off for the weekend to visit old friends. I could get on the back of the motorcycle and my husband and I could take a ride around the lake in the evening or go to a biker rally.
Having a child is wonderful too. I want to show her everything so I find myself planning more outings, be it to the zoo, pumpkin patch, or state fair. I actually get out and travel more. It's something I truly love and I want to share my love of travel with her. In her almost 14 months she has been to Oklahoma, Kansas, Nebraska, South Dakota, North Dakota, Missouri, Iowa, Illinois, Indiana, California, Manitoba, Ontario and had a layover in Colorado. By next month she will have also gone to Italy, with layovers in Germany, Washington DC and Chicago. This is how I like it. We are always doing something. She is always learning and I am able to still spend good quality time with her and get out and live also.
I do love that I get to watch someone experience life for the first time.
Seeing Christmas lights in the park.
1st time at the zoo. She saw a fish!
Seeing a bunny for the first time
Watching her first fireworks display.
Everywhere I go, she goes. A lot of this is because we don't live near our families and also my husband is deployed now. In the last 2 1/2 months I have had a baby sitter once and that was to go see Down. Totally amazing, by the way.
I was blessed that I didn't have to choose between a job and staying with my little cuteness. She came with me to work from the time she was 7 weeks old until she was 8 1/2 months old. Even though I enjoyed every minute - well most every minute - of it, it was time for her to be around other children. I thought I was doing great by getting her together for play dates with other kids a couple times a week but I quickly discovered that for her, it was not enough. She loves being around all the other children. She loves her teachers. She loves the attention. She loves the activities. Pretty much she has excelled in everything she has done since she has been there. I couldn't ask for more. All any parent wants is a happy, healthy, beautiful, smart baby.
Back to my point. I feel sorry for those women who have lost their identity in this thing called motherhood. I guess as people get older they just lose themselves along the way. No wonder the divorce rate is high. I know plenty of people who get married and try to become what the other person wants them to be rather than who they really are. It's as if they morph into one person and change so much that neither one recognizes the other. It's worse for mothers. I know SO many women who are so into mommy mode that they forget how to be a wife, a lover, a friend, their whole life is consumed by that child or children.
So how can one avoid the slow demise of Mommy Mode? Here are my suggestions.
- Make time for yourself. Have something other than your child that makes you happy. This can be a pet, a job, a past time, but something not child related.
- Have a baby free zone. For me the clutter of bouncy toys, swings, and highchairs makes me feel like I am in a daycare so I made our bedroom a baby free zone. It is really nice to not have toys all over my bedroom.
- Go out with your friends and even though your baby is perfect try not to talk about them all the time. (I have trouble with this. I feel like I talk about her all the time, but I must be doing ok because I have people always telling me that they are so happy that I am still me even after the baby.) I lose touch with more people once they have their babies just because they decide that its too hard to load up a baby with them everywhere they go. Then there is also the mom's that I don't mind losing touch with because they are either obsessed with every aspect of their child's life or they are always dumping them off with other members of their families. Why does it have to be one extreme or the other? Why can't they just be themselves?
- Get your child on a schedule! I can not stress enough how much that helps. Then you know that if your baby goes to bed at 8 pm that you still have time to spend with your spouse or do chores or just to relax and you can plan accordingly.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that parenting isn't that hard. It seems to be the most natural thing in the world. I'm sure I will regret these words when she turns 13 but as for now I expect meltdowns, I expect sickness and injuries. It's just the way it is. I'm going to keep doing what I am doing. I'm going to expose her to as much as happiness and positive experiences as I possibly can and I'm going to do it while still living my life as well.
Blog or Bust
I have joined the blogging world. No real reason for waiting so long. I actually like the idea that your identity is hidden...it is hidden right? Well we will just assume that it is.
I hate my job. I don't really like the city I live in. I don't really like my house. Well the house is ok. It would be better if I had sod in the backyard and not a mud pit. I may like it better if I had new carpet too. I love my husband and my kiddo and my babies(my 2 dogs and cat). But they can go anywhere, by anywhere I mean not here. UgggHH!! And it's 100+ degrees. I am ok as long as it's under 100. 99 is fine.
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Ok so I half blogged a few months ago. I figured that I should probably continue on. It could be an online journal of sorts. Usually I reserve these kinds of random thoughts for facebook but lately I just feel like I have more to say than what is allowed in a small fb post.
I hate my job. I don't really like the city I live in. I don't really like my house. Well the house is ok. It would be better if I had sod in the backyard and not a mud pit. I may like it better if I had new carpet too. I love my husband and my kiddo and my babies(my 2 dogs and cat). But they can go anywhere, by anywhere I mean not here. UgggHH!! And it's 100+ degrees. I am ok as long as it's under 100. 99 is fine.
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Ok so I half blogged a few months ago. I figured that I should probably continue on. It could be an online journal of sorts. Usually I reserve these kinds of random thoughts for facebook but lately I just feel like I have more to say than what is allowed in a small fb post.
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