I guess I never really cared one way or the other about the whole gay marriage issue. For people to say they need the governments approval before they feel they are able to love who they love really bothers me. I am married. I never felt that I needed to have government approval to do so. I considered myself married when I said my vows to my husband. We signed the government paperwork later. It never occurred to me that I wasn't legally married until I signed that paperwork. I pledged my love and commitment to him and he did the same for me. We were married.
Look at the show Sister Wives. Legally only one wife is married to the husband but all of those women have made a commitment to him and have kept their vows to him.
Look Glenn and Maggie. The world ended. Zombies have taken over but it doesn't stop them from deciding to get married. There is no legal document to be signed in their world but they still are proposing the idea of marriage.
Now I understand that people want to be able to share the benefits that have earned with their loved ones. Healthcare is off the table because Obama promised free health care for all. Where I work, in California, same sex domestic couples are able to share all their benefits with their partners. Whereas opposite sex domestic partners are not able to do so unless they are over 62. Does this sound equal? No it's not but you doesn't see a huge uprising over it.
In the end I think that if two people, whoever they may be, need to have their relationship validated by the federal government then maybe they need to look inside their relationship and see what they are really looking for. Please don't get me wrong. I am in complete support of the institute of marriage. I just wish people would focus on the relationship itself and not the title.
